Cuckolding and Troilism: definitions, relational and clinical contexts, emotional and sexual aspects, and neurobiological profiles. A complete review and investigation into the borderline forms of the relationship: Open Couples, Polygamy, Polyamory

Citation: Perrotta G (2020) Cuckolding and Troilism: definitions, relational and clinical contexts, emotional and sexual aspects, and neurobiological profiles. A complete review and investigation into the borderline forms of the relationship: Open Couples, Polygamy, Polyamory. Ann Psychiatry Treatm 4(1): 037-042. DOI: https://dx.doi.org/10.17352/apt.000019 https://dx.doi.org/10.17352/apt DOI: 2640-8031 ISSN: M E D I C A L G R O U P


In "troilism"
a) There is the conscience and will, between the two components of the couple, to share the sexual experience, in a more or less egalitarian way; b) The sexual experience is lived as a couple of game and for this reason shared in all its moments, from the predation of the third component (bull, in the context of threesome) or of a couple (in the context of foursome or quadrilateral) to the realization specifi cally of sexual acts, up to the emotional and emotional manifestation experienced before, during and after. With the addition of the fi fth component, the experience turns into an orgy (if they both play) or gangbang (if the taxable person is only a member of the couple); c) The emotional and emotional manifestations experienced before, during and after the sexual experience are shared between the two partners of the main couple, and enrich the experiential background of the individual components and of the couple itself, consolidating the relationship and love relationship; d) Between the couple's partners there is a precise code of conduct, pre-established and organized in detail, which makes the experience pleasant, consciously desired and managed in such a way as not to deprive the relationship bond of dignity, honesty, sincerity and loyalty and loving existing; e) Although the desire for triology is almost always stronger in one of the two partners, understanding, listening and respect for the other partner make this emotional and sexual experience capable of strengthening the bonds and satisfying the individual components of the couple, as long as there is awareness of one's emotions, needs and expectations, and that they are compatible with those of the partner, in a game of communion, altruism, and completeness, without prejudice or preconceptions. The lack of awareness or willingness or the purpose of satisfying the partner without a real sharing of ends will lead the couple to live the experience negatively, causing irremediable emotional breakdowns.
f) The sexual act performed by one of the two partners of the main couple is not experienced by the other as a violence to his person or as a humiliation capable of provoking denigration, as emotionally the couple is placed on a relational level and emotionally different from that of the subjects who interact with them and therefore they are experienced as objects of pleasure, as tools that have the purpose of provoking pleasure.

In "cuckolding"
There is no conscience and will, between the two components of the couple, to share the sexual experience, and one of the two subjects is totally or partially unaware of the betrayal consumed or consumed (possibly, passively accepts it or is part of a couple agreement where sexual practice is the shared element and not the emotional experience itself); The sexual experience is not experienced as a couple game but as a violence to the person who betrays trust and relational and loving bond (eventually, the conscious partner accepts the situation because it is convenient for maintaining the couple's relationship but not it is experienced as an exploratory moment of the emotions and sensations, needs and needs of the individual parts); The emotional and emotional manifestations experienced before, during and after the sexual experience are not shared between the two partners of the main couple (or at most the object of discussion is the carnal act itself and the use of the partner as means to achieve the realization of paraphilia), and therefore do not enrich the experiential baggage of the individual components or of the couple itself, disintegrating the relationship bond from within and loving, often with unawareness of the other partner. In this way, the lawyer is weighed down by feelings of guilt and shame that can irreparably infl uence the relationship and feelings; Between the partners of the couple, there is no preestablished code of conduct, organized in detail (or if there is a code of conduct this is expressed -in the best of casesin the general and essential rules, sometimes modifi ed from time to time in based on specifi c needs and almost always by one of the two components of the main couple), since the sexual experiences lived by one of the two partners (or both separately) are characterized by being secret and hidden (or in any case not open and shared). The borderline form between cuckolding and troilism is precisely that of the "conscious cuckold": in this case, one of the two partners or both are aware of the respective betrayals of the other ("open couple") but both decide not to share the experiences and not to speak about it, if not occasionally and to organize the couple's daily life. However, this hypothesis falls fully into the category of "cuckoldism" since the absence of secrecy (given by the awareness of betrayal) still affects negatively (since there is always a lack of sharing of experience and of a common code of conduct, which continue to harm the couple from the inside); although this solution may seem suitable to continue the experience of the love relationship, perhaps in crisis, in reality, these circumstances undermine the relationship from the inside, making it implode slowly until one of the two or both will fi nd the ideal partner for the fi nal decision of concluding the relationship or marriage experience with the main partner; In the couple, the sharing of experience and therefore the constructive moments of listening and mutual respect of emotional manifestations is missing in whole or in part; The sexual act performed by one of the two partners of the main couple is experienced by the other as a violence to the person or as a humiliation capable of provoking denigration since emotionally it is not the couple who plays or decides the rules but it is only one of the two components and the other is the victim of the game or the clandestine relationship. The word used in this context, "cuckold" (masculine) or "reverse cuckold or cuckquean" (feminine), which derives from the medieval French "cucuault", literally means "the bad cuckoo", about the female of the cuckoo who is said that often changes In the animal kingdom, this practice is rather studied about fertilization possibilities and the increase in opportunities for procreative purposes, especially in mammals and birds [4] and less in the marine kingdom [5].
About human beings, the topic under examination has been debated above all in humanistic and literary fi elds [6], while clinical areas have begun to interest you recently, especially in terms of relational areas, fl ows of consciousness, and emotional material [7]. type I cuckolding males, and type II cuckolding males. Unexpectedly, the differential expression POA-AH was more strongly coupled with behavioral tactics than with morphs. This included a series of transcripts implicated in the hormonal regulation of vertebrate social behavior [10].

The etiology of the phenomenon and neural correlates
On the other hand, concerning the second hypothesis (psychological cause), referring to a post-traumatic stress adaptation [11] that takes place in the context of paraphilias [8]  what I say") or submission and humiliation ("I enjoy being considered a sexual object"), practices which in themselves are already considered paraphilic [19]. g) "Unconscious desire to live bisexual or homosexual drive experiences", albeit in the larval state, for a sense of shame or inability to accept these drives on a conscious level [20].

Clinical contexts and relationship strategies
Both for cuckolding and troilism, including the hypotheses of open couples, polyamory and polygamy, the results of scientifi c research that examine a statistically signifi cant sample are missing, about any psychopathologies related to these relational and sexual activities [1]. However, the data in our possession allow to make some substantial differences, related to the perceptive-reactive system [21], of the patient and his way of reacting concerning the environment around him [22]; in particular, one will have to ask whether [3]; a) Does the patient perceive his behavior or that of his partner as disturbing? b) Does the patient experience the partner's behavior or feel the urge to satisfy them? c) Does the patient fail to have a satisfying relationship and sentimental life without the implementation of these sexual behaviors? d) Does the patient perceive an accentuation of these behaviors?
e) The patient has suffered relational, working, emotional or sentimental problems as a result of the realization or ideation of these behaviors?
The positive affi rmation of even just one of these questions should induce him to begin a targeted psychotherapy path, possibly with a cognitive-behavioral or strategic approach [23], to fi nd answers to his doubts and clarify any information gaps. However, it should be borne in mind that certain pathological forms, even if considered as such, do not always require clinical intervention, as only the ego-dystonic forms (not in harmony with the surrounding environment) cause suffering and malaise, while the ego-syntonic forms, perhaps because they are experienced with a partner and a favorable context, they do not provoke those negative emotions and perceptions that characterize the request for therapeutic intervention [3].
If therefore the relationship with the partner is stable and this conduct does not cause problems, diffi culties or discrepancies between the wishes of the individual members of the couple, then it is still important to follow simple rules of behavior, to positively continue these "particular" experiences of waist [3].

Conclusions
It is clear that the reasons that justify these behaviors are mainly attributable to psychological components and secondarily to neurobiological and hormonal components, even if the research published on this topic is not conclusive and is not conclusive. The subject of this work deserves further study, also from a clinical point of view.
In the future, research should focus on the following investigation points: a. neurobiological studies able to determine the precise direction of the neural circuits underlying sentimental and sexual preferences, comparing the results with non-paraphilic subjects; b. neurobiological studies able to determine the exact correlation between troilism and paraphilias; c. neurobiological studies able to focus research on neuroendocrine and genetic factors capable of infl uencing sexual behavior.